Throughout my ordeal, the one thing I have longed to hear from the medical professional whose actions and inaction caused my plight  is “I’m sorry, I understand.” Because of legalities, bedside manner in this regard has essentially gone out the window.  As OBGYN’s are flooded with lawsuits and threats of legal action, true empathy is rare to find vocalized in the medical community.

I am not saying that everything was my OBGYN’s fault, however, I am saying that her empathy could have been a powerful beginning to my healing journey.  For my OBGYN to relay the understanding of the loss that a 27-year-old must feel when she no longer has rectal function and control would have gone a long way with me.  Instead, I received a firm statement of “this is normal” from my OBGYN when I conveyed my inability to control my bowels.

In advocating for others, I hope to be that voice that “victims” can hear when the medical community remains silent.  So, here it is from my mouth to your ears “I am sorry for your situation.  I totally understand.  I will do everything I can to help you on your healing journey.”

Thanks for Reading,



  1. njgirl197329 Said:

    Lauren though I dont know what u have had to go through, I just want to say I am so sorry for your situation. I am here to help even if its just to listen 🙂 and u are helping many heal in their journey, you are an inspiration to me and others..

    • peace4lauren Said:

      YOU are an inspiration to me (and many others) too! I love reading your blog and I can really relate to a lot of the emotions and situations that you find yourself in. Please keep writing and I will keep reading. -Lauren

  2. Mrs. W Said:

    I’m sorry – you deserved better and didn’t get it.

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